We parents of the homeschooling community are so blessed to be home with our children day in and day out teaching them and guiding them through life the way we think they should be guided. Parents have been teaching their children for years. It is nothing new. What’s new is there are more of us now and our reasons for homeschooling have changed from the reasons of the past. Some still do it for religious reasons but I find that most do it for societal reasons. We care about who our kids are around and what they are learning from society.
This homeschooling decision is a heroic task. Our children will be better for our great sacrifice to them and society because we are raising our children to do great things in society. We are great! We are awesome! We are tired!
Let’s speak honesty for a minute. There is a reason why everyone doesn’t home school. It’s exhausting! So many things go on during the day. There are days we all, don’t pretend you don’t, just want to throw in the towel. Maybe just run away. Homeschooling your child or for those of you with more than one is hard. Kids try your patience more than they do when you send them away to school. Maybe we notice it more because we never get a break from them. You have so much more on your shoulders because you are responsible for your child’s education. If they fail academically, it is due to your failure as a teacher. You have to worry about making sure they are learning the values you want them to learn and demonstrate those values when they go out in the world. Never mind the socialization debate and outside judgement we all get over that one topic. I personally think that people stress so much on this when it is so simple to socialize your child. What I find more funny is the fact that we parents are very aware that, if our children aren’t doing well academically it’s due to our teaching but society won’t take responsibility for the fact that, if a child isn’t grasping something in a traditional school setting it is due to the fault of the teacher and not the student. Funny how that works out.
As much as we love homeschooling our tiny wonders, we must acknowledge that like parenting a child, homeschooling is hard. Parents we have to remember to take a breath. Take care of ourselves. Take time out to regroup. We home school for many reasons but the ultimate reason is because we love our children. We want the best for them and in our opinion this is what’s best.
Just like you schedule your child’s education and your meals of the day you need to schedule time for you. It doesn’t have to be a lot of time. It just needs to be time to regroup and decompress. This is vital to your success as a parent and as a homeschooling parent. I have read quite a few blogs in this past week. Most of them were from Simple Homeschool: A Day in the Life Series. Just about every mom that spoke about her day with her kids scheduled sometime for themselves whether it was early in the morning or later in the evening.
Get a hobby. Read a book. Give yourself a fifteen minute lay down moment. Whatever it is you need to give yourself a breather every single day. Make sure your kids are occupied so that you can have that child free time. We have to recharge our batteries and take care of ourselves. Taking care of yourself teaches your children to do the same.
I love going to the bay. It’s my happy place. Before I started homeschooling my daughter, she went to a Catholic School. Every morning after dropping her off I would drive over to the bay and sit for an hour and meditate, write my affirmations and go over my goals. By the end of the hour I was relaxed, balanced and centered. It was the best way for me to start out my day. I found myself to be a much happier person during that time. I stop going when she got out of school for Summer vacation this past Summer. There were a lot of things going on in our lives at the time. Then we started homeschooling. I had it scheduled in our day but never could get there because the schedule never worked out right. The bay and my sense of peace became a casualty of homeschooling.
Now that we have made it through a full quarter, I have found a way to make our school day go by faster and as of this week we will be going back to the bay and doing school there. I will teach my child to meditate and learn to be still. No one taught me that when I was growing up. I will find my center and regain my Zen. My is always clear and my point of view about life is much more positive when I go. It has always been a known fact that after three days of not going to the bay I fall off balance. It’s been a long time. It’s time to take care of me again and I urge you to do the same. We can’t take good care of our babies if we don’t take good care of ourselves.
As hard as homeschooling can be, just like parenting, it is a pleasure and a joy to do. I find myself excited about it everyday. I have no intention of sending my child back to traditional schooling. We are both happy living the life of a homeschooling family. Now that we have gotten a quarter under our belt, I am now working on ways to fit in field trips and alternative places to have school so we aren’t locked up in our apartment everyday. Life is short and we are blessed to have the time we have by homeschooling. Let the games begin.
What are your ways of taking a moment for yourself? Do you agree that you need to schedule in “Me Time” in your daily schedule?