Do you monitor your children’s internet usage? Do you think that children should be raised with morals? Who is responsible for children’s bad behavior?
I recently watched an ABC Family movie called “Cyberbully.” This movie was about a young high school girl and her experience with cyber bullying. Her mother was a very protective mother who did all the right things. She monitored her internet usage and explained all the dangers of the internet. For the young girls birthday, her mother gave in and gave her a laptop.
The young girl was a very responsible girl. She was a good student and loyal friend. With new laptop in hand and her two best friends by her side, the main character goes on a popular website that everyone in her school went on. It was a Facebook type of site. Before you could blink, the school bullies are on the site bullying her after her brother and his friend hacked her account and said something crude in her name.
Throughout the movie, you go on this journey with this child and watch how vicious teenagers of today really can be. The tormenting of this girl gets out of control when someone creates a fake profile of a boy and post that he slept with her. Things get to be so bad that she makes a goodbye video and attempts suicide. She thankfully survives and she and her mother goes on a mission to find out who created the profile and in list the help of the authorities. Sadly, the authorities can’t help because the state doesn’t have laws for cyber bullying and the school has no authority either.
In the end, the girl goes through intense therapy, regains her strength and returns to school. The person who created the fake profile was revealed, the girl and her friends stood up to the pack of girls who were bullying everyone in the school and she and her mother got the state to change the laws on cyber bullying in their state.
After watching this movie, which you can find on Netflix, I began to think about my journey as a home school mom and my reasons for continuing. I cannot imagine sending my child in an environment where children can be so extremely vicious to each other and get away with it. In the film, the head bully was outed for her bad behavior and her father, a lawyer, protected her. He took no accountability for the fact that his daughter’s bad behavior pushed another child over the edge to attempt suicide. He offered up no apology, remorse or anything. His opinion was, “You have no proof. Go away!”
At what point do we all have to look up and take responsibility for what we are telling our kids? When will we, as parents, understand that our children learn from what they see us do? When will we begin to stop being so selfish as parents and realize that our children will soon grow up and be on their own without us to defend them?
Our society of parents are telling their children everyday, in so many ways, that it is okay to behave badly. Here is an example: I had a friend who’s son frequently got into some sort of altercation with another child. Whenever this happened, my friend’s response about the other child was always, “Oh he is a little A hole.” He would make this declaration with his son within ear shot. It has not occurred to him yet that he is giving his son a green light to behave badly. He is also teaching his son to blame others for his behaviors rather than take responsibility for his part in any situation.
I often think to myself when I encounter these types of situations, “How do these parents expect these kids to grow up to be respectful, giving, confident, civil members of society, when they are raising them to be just the opposite? Why can’t they see that they are not helping their kids but hurting them? What is going on in their heads that makes them feel like giving their kids whatever they want and cleaning up their mess is helping their kids grow into self sufficiency?
Now that we have finished our first year of homeschooling, we are beginning to get the question, “What school is she going too this year? Are you going to send her to public school this year?” I politely tell people, as I have since we started, we are going to continue home schooling. I have but one mission in life as a parent: Raise my daughter to be confident, kind, loving to herself and others, giving, loyal, respectful, and a law abiding good citizen.
Society can strip a person’s confidence and self image. It is my job to make sure that my daughter keeps hers in tact as much as possible. As a Catholic/Christian it is my job to make sure that she is raised in the faith to love God and to work to be like Jesus as much as humanly possible. This is not to be accomplished by keeping her locked up in the house until she’s an adult. This is to be accomplished by paying attention to the type of people she associates with. This is to be accomplished by teaching her to be devoted to her faith and to think about not only herself but others. I will accomplish this by teaching her to help others through volunteer work and simple random acts of kindness.
The world is ever changing. When we were kids, the elders looked at us like we were the heathens. Now we are doing the same but the difference is we did not do half the stuff this generation is doing. Of course, we didn’t have the access they do, but if we did, we wouldn’t do half of what they do now. The key difference between the generations is: Morality. We had morals and taboos to face. The new generation has no taboos or morals. It is a free for all. As the older generation, the parents in this scenario, we need to go back to basics with our kids and instill morality. If we don’t, heaven only knows where we will end up when these kids take over. Just a thought!
How do you feel about morality? Do you believe there are still taboos in American society? If not, should there be?