There comes a time in every home schoolers life where they have a bad day. Bad days are created from various circumstances. There is no specific reason for why this happens. Like anything else in life, it just happens. We had a bad day a few days ago. Harmonie and exhaustion on both our parts played a huge part in this day.
On our bad day I sat with my favorite tiny human and began working out division problems on the board. We went through about five problems together, with her telling me all the steps, while I wrote them down. I’ve learned that if I give her my undivided attention with math, we get through it easier. The first three days of the week went beautifully. She actually said she liked the assignments we were doing. She said they were fun. So, I did not expect what I received on Thursday morning.
We finished the examples and I had her begin working on her problems of the day. Immediately, the stall monster appeared. She stalled and drew pictures on her paper and ignored my constant demand to get her work done. Before I knew it, I was yelling, she was crying and everyone was miserable.
My great frustration is she knows how to do these problems. It boggles my mind that a kid who is so good at math fights it so much. She has no confidence in this area and I know it is my job to guide her and help her build the confidence but the running away from your problems just makes me nuts.
I realize this is a Mommy problem and not really a Harmonie problem. You know those issues you have within yourself that makes you crazy about people but really is not their problem? The frustration was so heavy I looked up and found this: a sleeping child on the floor with a math book and pencil nearby.
Now before you feel to bad for her, understand that we are talking about a very intelligent child. She very well could have gone to sleep to keep from having to do her math. Yes, my kid would do such a thing. The problem here of course is me. I am stumbling to figure out how to get this kid to do her work and not fight it. I am struggling to find a way to teach her math with confidence so that she feels good about doing it without doing what others do…….doing it for them. I am not that mom. She needs to do her own work and fight through her struggles. I, on the other hand, have to learn a better way of dealing with my frustration of my child attempting to pull the wool over my eyes and dragging out an assignment forever. I need to learn to be more consistent for starters.
As we navigate through the journey of parenthood, it is our responsibility to take a look at our own behaviors and beliefs and adjust as needed. We need to make sure we are constantly growing as parents and as people in general so we can teach our children to do the same. I am a work in progress. I’m constantly working on me. I’m not perfect but I am willing to find new ways to handle situations for a more peaceful home school life. We’ll see how next week goes.
How do you get through bad home school days? How do you help your children work through the hard subjects without making it harder by loosing your cool?