So I’m reading this book “Why You’re Not Married…..Yet!” by Tracy McMillan, a good read so far by the way, and though I’m not done with the book yet, she said something that made me think. She said, “Get a Hobby!” Simple thought I know. Here was the premise. We ladies put so much emphasis on obtaining a man in our lives, we lose sight of the reality of having and losing a man.
Having a man in our lives is great. I love having someone to call my own, however, when you lose him then what? Some women are blessed enough to have been raised in quasi perfect environments that have implanted superior self esteem within their psyche. The rest of us screwed up ladies not so much. Most of us have some type of paralysis from our childhoods, some loser that treated us badly, or we are just out right crazy ourselves for no other reason than we were born that way. Either way, a man walks out of our lives and the recovery time is ridiculously long.
The concept of having a hobby, of which I have many, is to have something other than a man to fill up your life. Notice I didn’t say time? Unfortunately, most women feel like life would be better once they have a man. Then, they get one and make him their whole life. Once he leaves, they are lost and miserable.
The key is to make your own life better. You need to be in control of your life and happiness. This way, when a man departs your life, you have things already set in place to occupy your time. You have something to do that is more important and takes precedence over the departure of some man. Sure, it will hurt, but you will get over it quicker because you have things important to occupy your mind and soothe your soul.
Get a hobby Mommies! You are home alone with your children every day. Find something that fills your soul with peace. Find things that give you a moment to breathe and relax after a long day of being teacher and mommy to your precious babies. A man should be an addition to the life you live. He should not be the life you live. Once you have control over your life, having a man in it will become an option, not a necessity.
What are your favorite hobbies? Outside of work, do you have things that occupy your time? Let’s chat about it.